Skip to main content

self doubt

Are You Scared Of Success?

By Mindset and ConfidenceNo Comments

I’m going to get you really thinking with this post.

When we procrastinate, doubt ourselves and hold ourselves back, it may not be a fear of failing that causes us to do these things, it could actually be a fear of succeeding!

Think about it, what happens when you begin to succeed? You get thrust into the spotlight, all eyes start being on you and you start being the centre of attention.

The results of being successful can be scary!

Ask yourself something. Are you scared of fucking up?

Now think about not messing up but doing the opposite, you do everything right and Mr Success comes to visit. 

This happened to me back in my archery days. While I was working towards being a champion archer, nobody really noticed me, I was in the shadows and could just carry on doing my thing.

Then the British championships happened and my first attempt saw me coming second and getting the silver medal. People noticed me, people watched me, people suddenly started to monitor everything I did, whether it was my work ethic when practising or what I was achieving in the single-day tournaments.

Then the first gold medal happened, the national records happened and everything was amplified. There was archery media attention at tournaments, every shot was watched and analysed on the Thursday and Friday evenings at local clubs.


This wasn’t an overnight thing, the more things you do right, the more attention you get but it’s a slow-burn and usually at a pace you can get used to.

One of the big worries is that people are going to go from obscure to fame in the time it takes to have a good night sleep, but it’s not like that.

I promise you, the journey of success is easier and smoother than you think.

Our mind creates this big thing about it, turns cute little kittens into wild tigers, a tiny puddle into a deep lake and a speed ramp into a whole mountain. The reality is much nicer and easier to swallow.

I can help you on this journey to success, help you navigate the worries and the fears and help you celebrate when you make it.

Book a call with me HERE. A quick 30 minute free call will help identify where you want to go and how we can work together.

The day I was told to know my place

By Mindset and ConfidenceOne Comment

The day I was told “Know your place”

Back when I worked in my 9-5 job, in the final couple of years I was there I had a new manager. Nice guy away from work but when in work he had a very old style of managing, kind of “shut up and do what I say” style.

One day during a summer holiday, I was up a ladder doing maintenance on projectors. It was an awkward position to be in and my manager enters the room and tells me to do something. Obviously I had to refuse, I had a projector in my hands that I’d just removed from the ceiling bracket. What he said next helped me decide to start putting things into place to work for myself. He told me “Know your place and just do it!”.

Initially I felt horrible, I felt small and I almost complied, but I started to remember who I truly was and my worth. I questioned what he said and he repeated it once more. It was then that I vowed to get out of there, I was worth SO much more than that!

From that point on, our relationship wasn’t the best, and when a new headteacher arrived and decided to create mass redundancies (also resulting in as many more leaving), my name included, it was the best news ever!

I took that redundancy to launch my coaching business on MY terms, knowing my true value and not being surrounded by politics and egos.

My final day there was at the end of the summer holiday so there was virtually nobody to say goodbye to. It was a day of two emotions, sadness for not being able to say goodbye to friends, but excitement to be getting out of such a toxic environment and into MY world.

This was a huge lesson for me to never let anyone put me down like that. I’m worth more and you know what, SO ARE YOU!!!

It’s horrible when I’m told by clients how they are being put down and made to feel second class. NOBODY should feel that way and that’s why I do what I do.

It breaks my heart seeing people not living their true life, not being themselves and not being able to be themselves. I’ve felt that in the past and I hate the thought of someone else going through that, I use the word “hate” very very rarely!

Please please remember that you are worthy, you are amazing, you are unique.

You are worthy of love, worthy of success and you CAN have the life you desire.