There’s no doubt that self-doubt is part of life, but that does’t mean it has a place in our lives. There are many ways to begin to overcome self-doubt and today, I want to give you 3 easy steps to help you along that journey.

When you start to overcome your self-doubt, your confidence naturally raises and strengthens.

So, the first step I want to talk about is:

RECOGNISE

What do I mean by that? We go through life, many times not realising we’re doing something because it happens so naturally. Those doubts we have is exactly one of those things. We speak about it without even thinking.

But, when we begin to become more aware of our negative and doubting thoughts, we begin to gain the ability to question and control those thoughts.

It can be difficult to be consciously aware of those natural and automative thoughts but with a little effort and self-awareness, it can definitely be done and you’re well on your way to overcoming that self-doubt.

REFRAME

Another big step is to question those thoughts we become aware of. If you think “I can’t do that”, reframe it with an additional of a simple word…. yet. It them becomes “I can’t do that… yet”. This is telling your brain that you’re capable of doing it but you simply need to learn a little more. It changes “Never going to happen” to “It’s going to happen soon”.

Can you see how questioning and reframing can be simple yet powerful?

And finally…

CELEBRATE

Celebrate your wins and achievements. This is something we don’t do on a daily basis or even at all. We don’t give the value and significance to our achievements and wins because it’s just something we do naturally.

Hint: What’s normal for us, is amazing and inspirational to others!

It doesn’t matter if the achievement / win is small or if it’s large, it needs to be recognised and celebrated so we condition our brain to give value to all of our wins. The more we do this, the less self-doubt we feel and the more confidence we have.

How did you find these 3 steps? Are you ready to implement them? Do you need help? If you do, contact me and oet’s chat about working together.

Daz
The Self-Doubt Coach

It doesn’t have to be that way though. Like most things with mindset and confidence growth, small steps are the key to growing at a rate that feels good, give you results and doesn’t make you want to poop.

One of the things I teach in my Live Video Confidence Course is to practise in a private area that’s away from anyone but helps you to get used to being on camera. It acts like muscle memory, the more you do the same thing, the easier it feels to do it.

While going live can definitely be scary, it’s surprising how quickly that fear dissolves away. I had it when I began my Periscope journey, it was my first real entrance into live broadcasting and the first few broadcasts only lasted 10-15 minutes and I felt SO uncomfortable.

Over time, those 10-15 minutes grew to 30 minutes then an hour and my longest broadcast was around 4 hours long!

All that began though with the short broadcasts that helped me get used to being out there on live video.

I absolutely promise you that it’s possible and those scary feelings will fade much quicker than you realise.

If you need help with putting yourself out there on live video or even pre-recorded video, my Live Video Confidence Course is perfect for you.  One of the reviews I’ve received about it said “Where to begin: from realising how to create content; planning my schedule; having the confidence to put it out to the world and even looking at the tech options; every step is a gem. “.

Once purchased you get lifetime access to it and if I update anything in the course, you get that too. Head on over to the link in the comments to grab your copy.

Live Video Confidence Course Page:
https://darrendanks.com/product/live-video-confidence-course/

It’s true and it’s something we’re mostly powerless against.

But that only accounts for those initial thoughts of doubt. We DO have control over what we do next.

It’s like eating healthy won’t stop you getting colds and stuff like that but it does help those nasties go away very quickly.

Doing the inner mindset work will help you to recognise those doubting thoughts and take control over them instead of them having control over you.

My first piece of advice is not to allow those doubtful thoughts to drag you down because you did not consciously create them.

My next piece of advice is to question those thoughts. “Are these doubts true or a big pile of doo doo?”. Be honest and you’ll find that almost every time you will come to the realisation that they’re doo doo.

Remember, doubting yourself is natural and not your fault. What IS your fault is when you choose not to do anything about it and then complain about those doubts.

Do you need help with deal with your doubts. I’m The Self-Doubt Coach and I can help you push through them, control them and move toward the life and business you desire.

Contact me and we’ll see how you can work with me.

Enticing isn’t it, magical even.

Let me tell you an actual secret, it’s BS!

I’ve seen plenty of “coaches” offering these type of breakthroughs and of course we feel that twinge of desire, of course we want those magical shortcuts to the success and life we dream of.

Years ago I was tempted by these offers myself. They sound amazing, they seem like we’re in the Matrix and we’re downloading whatever we need straight into our brain in moments.

Again though….. they’re BS!

Mindset growth, Self-Doubt and Impostor Syndrome reduction are all achieved with small sustained steps over time. Taken with a coach like myself is even better.

Another trait of these “offers” is that you’re useless and you need to be taught everything needed to be a success in life. Again…. BS!!! You already have greatness inside of you, you already have amazing skills and abilities, they simply need to be brought back to the surface.

A good coach will help you to discover your true needs and goals, they will help you gain clarity of what’s stopping you from achieving those goals and they will work with you to create action steps to get there. All this is done over time, not overnight.

A good coach will not expect you to bend to their way, they will not treat you as a number or coach you in a “cookie cutter” way, they will work WITH you and find the best way FOR YOU.

Everything you want to achieve is achievable by you, maybe not the power of levitation though, not without the aid of a good curry and a big tin of beans anyway! ??

I have spaces available right now to work with me on a 1:1 basis, all based around my Discovery – Clarity – Action framework. I will never promise you overnight success but I will promise you changes in your mindset, clarity and confidence over the time we will be working together. These will lead to greater forward movement in your life and business, greater success and greater happiness.

Want to cut through those cords that feel like they’re holding you back?

Want to move forward with more confidence and success?

Contact Me and let’s see what journey we can go on together.

True confidence is only for the select few, right?

Absolutely not, confidence, true and ultra confidence is for EVERYONE and no matter what you think, you are capable of it and you deserve it!

It’s not all about walking down the street and everyone moves out of your way like Morpheus in The Matrix, true confidence is simply being comfortable with who you are and what you do. 

Confidence begins within us. It’s not about telling everyone how confident you are. Being unapologeticaly you is a learned skill, it’s not one of those things you either have or you haven’t.

If it’s a learned skill then that means we ALL can learn it. We can ALL be confident and we can ALL be successful.

Never ever feel that confidence is something you’ll never have. You are far better than that and you deserve more!

Begin with showing yourself some self-love. Start by choosing something each day to compliment yourself on. Maybe it’s your smile, you friendliness, how well you connect with people. There will definitely be something you can choose. Simply tell yourself a few times that day “Wow, you have such a great smile” or “You put people at ease SO easily”, or whatever you choose that day.

You can do this!

You deserve this!

Confidence is all yours!

As The Self-Doubt Coach, I help my clients with this all the time and I can help you too! Slippery slide onto my contact me page and let’s start this journey together.

Daz
The Self-Doubt Coach

Here are 3 ways to help you overcome those pesky self doubt thoughts…

Tip 1

Stop comparing yourself!

However much we want to look at the success and progress of others in our industry and be inspired by them, that very quickly and very easily turns into comparison and judgement on ourselves. “Why are they so far ahead of me?”. “How are they making more money?”. “Why are they better than me?”.

Stop this madness! Comparing yourself to others almost always leads to doubting yourself and holding yourself back.

Just be you! You are enough!

Tip 2

Stop using the expectations of others as your own.

Everyone has their own idea of what success looks like, it’s as unique as your fingerprint. Yet we still set our own success expectations to match those of others. You are unique and wonderful and should set your OWN expectations. Using those of others will only lead to feelings of inadequacy and failure.

Tip 3

Look backwards to move forwards.

OK Daz, WTF are you talking about??? Stick with me on this one.

Our past achievements contain all the proof we need to show us that we ARE good enough. You’ve passed your academic exams, maybe had sporting wins, started a family and many more. All of these give you the evidence to show you how amazing you are and how capable you are of achieving things we set out to achieve.

YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

I used to do all of these but tapping back into my archery champion mindset helped me to push past each and every one of them, be myself and be successful on MY terms.

Want to work with a mindset coach who has been described as “World class”? A coach who has also been British Archery Champion and knows what it takes to get there and stay at the top?

Contact me and let’s chat about how we can work together…..

I remember a time when I never thought I’d be good enough to be a coach.

I used to look at other coaches and be in awe of them. I never thought I would or could be as good as they were.

Does this sound familiar?

Over the years I’ve had to do a lot of work to break out of that cycle of not believing I was good enough, not believing I could be in the same league as those other coaches I once looked up to and not believing I could change lives, something I’ve always wanted to do the whole of my life. Something I know is my purpose here.

I stopped the comparisons. I saw other coaches for what they are, just people. I began believing in myself and over time the Impostor Syndrome mostly stopped (I don’t believe we ever get rid of it 100% but we DO control it). 

When I was called “World Class” it brought up those Impostor Feelings again but this time they didn’t last long because I’d done the work, I knew who I was and what I can do, and I absolutely knew those thoughts were false.

Once you can objectively look at those thoughts and recognise them for what they truly are, false, you take back control over your life.

All the work I’ve done to mostly eliminate my own Impostor Syndrome I bring into my coaching so it can help my clients just like it helped me.

Have you gone through a similar journey? I’d love to hear more.

Daz
The Self-Doubt Coach